MY JOURNEY TO DISCOVERING THE JOY OF BEING SINGLE (PART 2)

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And then what he meant with that statement hit me. I quickly realized how I practically ran to Dotun for everything. Whenever I have had a bad day all I had to do was to get home, call Dotun and everything will be fine, or if I am reading a part in the bible and I didn’t seem to understand Dotun was just a phone call away and in no time we will be sharing our heart out together about whatever question I had. Those thoughts led me to thinking about the different occasion where I had made Jesus jealous for me without realizing. I got home that afternoon happy that Jesus finally answered me but also very humbled. All I wanted to do was cry at his feet and seek for repentance.

I realized how I took Christ love for granted but how he was still chasing after me. I cried and cried at the feet of Jesus and I began to learn to run to Jesus for everything. At this point I spoke to a few friends about what I had been going through and they all spoke words of encouragement into my life.

I also spoke to one of my spiritual mother and she was able to shed more light into what I was going through, I won’t bore you with all the details but it was encouraging having people speaking life into me. Fast forward to August of 2017 we had a conference in our church and no it wasn’t about singleness or dating. But it was in this conference I started to understand the true meaning of JESUS MY EVERYTHING. It was in this conference the song RECKLESS LOVE by Cory Asbury made sense to me, I had heard the song before but it had never ministered to me the way it did during this conference. I felt God’s love chasing after me and doing whatever it takes for me to see that he truly loves me and wants to be with me. Experiencing his love wasn’t new for me but experiencing a deeper revelation of his love was powerful and then I began to open my heart and let myself open to that love. Still doing that till date and I don’t regret it.

Now don't get me wrong. I don't believe my friendship with Dotun was the problem. I am blessed and thankful to God have him in my life. And honestly, I believe God really used that experience to open me up to the other things aside Dotun that I had made God in my life. So the lesson wasn't just, stop running to Dotun for everything. It was I (God) am your everything.

So, how do I find joy in being single? 
The answer is JESUS. The truth is even though I never felt lonely before the whole process I didn’t completely seek my joy and happiness from Jesus. This whole process made me look to Jesus for everything, I decided to make him my GREATEST DESIRE and chase after him because in him is complete joy.

To be real I have days where I don’t feel like loving Jesus. My heart isn’t always burning for him. I don’t always feel like praying, reading my bible or worshiping him but in those moment I choose to do those things even when I don’t feel like it. I intentionally go after Jesus and because he his faithful and just he meets me every time. 

To all singles out there:
- Singleness is not a disease!

- It’s a calling and a gift. 1st Corinthians 7:24

- Use your gifts and calling and don’t be worried or anxious about your calling. In other words use your singleness for the Lord and do not be anxious about your single status. 1st Corinthians 7: 32-35.

- Don’t focus on your singleness, focus on Jesus.

- You worship what you desire so if all you desire is to have a boyfriend/girlfriend that’s what your heart automatically worships, and I don’t think you want your heart worshipping a boy/girl.

- No man/woman will complete you, so you should seek completeness in God and nothing else.

- Nobody will bring you complete joy excepts Jesus this doesn’t mean your spouse won’t make you happy or give you joy but joy surpasses joy and that joy can only be found in Jesus. Psalms 16:11.

- Use your love language with Jesus. Pour your love and affection on Jesus. One of my love languages is quality time and so I spend as much quality time as I can with Jesus.

- Make Jesus your greatest treasure. Matthew 6:33

- Get occupied with good and biblical godly things that feed your soul and spirit well. And last but not the least

- BE INTENTIONAL! I can’t emphasize that well enough. Intentionality have played a huge role in my walk with the Lord so when I say be intentional I know what I am saying because I have been and still doing just that.

Peace and love to you all. Until next time.



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