SADNESS

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 HAPPY NEW YEAR FAMILY!

I have spent days thinking of how to write on this topic and I still don't feel like I have my thoughts organized but I want to stop postponing, so I'll try my best to articulate my thoughts. So here we go.

What is Sadness? Leonard Holmes definition best describes my thoughts, "Sadness is an emotional state characterized by feelings of unhappiness and low mood. It is considered one of the basic human emotions. It is a normal response to situations that are upsetting, painful, or disappointing. Sometimes these feelings can feel more intense, while in other cases they might be fairly mild."

Growing up, expressing sadness was frowned on and often seen as weakness. Some people even went as far as using part of the Bible they deemed fit to prove their point or some use bible verses that can yes encourage in those moments of sadness but in this context is used to show you that you are not christian enough for allowing yourself feel sad. The fact that I am not very expressive with my emotions also unknowingly cultivated these thoughts. I never necessarily planned to hide my emotions, I just never allowed myself expressed them in public. First of all I don't like being the center of attention, and I didn't want a sad moment people experienced in my life to define me. But I have no control over how people will perceive me, so I quickly learnt to let that go.

Being sad, and allowing yourself feel sad is healthy. It shows you're in tune with your emotions.                It create room for you to learn about yourself : you're able to identify things that do not make you happy.                                                                                                                                              It opens doors for growth : we sometimes put ourselves in situations that ends up saddening us, learning from such situations helps us grow. Dealing healthily with sadness can also reduce the risk of depression, persistent anxiety, and so on. Notice I said it can reduce the risk of those other illnesses not eradicate.

Some ways I deal with my sad moments are:

- I allow myself be sad. As simple as this sound it can be difficult because sometimes my default is to escape that reality, but letting myself know it's okay and that everything will eventually be fine.

- If possible/identifiable I deal with the cause of my sadness

- Praying (mostly venting to God but yh 🤷🏽‍♀️). But yeah I really just be telling God how I feel

- I call my friends and vent till I can vent no more 

- I workout. Take a walk, go for a jog or dance

- I cry and cry and cry till I feel good

- I sleep and deal with the issue when I wake up (because I cannot come and kill myself) 

God is not intimidated by any of your emotions, let him in on all. The presence of sadness is not lack of faith   

Above all, get okay with being sad, IT'S OKAY TO BE SAD!

Peace ✌🏾


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