SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY

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A genuine question I hear a lot from godly unmarried people goes something like this, “If we are to abstain before marriage how will I know if we are sexually compatible?” …Why this a thought of concern confuses me but I get it. 


When a healthy baby is born, he/she is born with legs, hands, eyes, and so on. For the sake of this post I’d focus on legs. Babies are born with legs but don’t come out of their mother’s uterus walking, they learn to walk just as they learn to use every other parts of their body.


No one is born sexually compatible to anyone. Sex at its core is biology and if and when God calls you to marriage your spouse and yourself will and should learn how to serve and please each other sexually. Sexual compatibility will be a fruit of your service to each other.


I believe that in a godly marriage selflessly submitting one to another through acts of service is and should be one foundation on which everything is built and this selfless service extends to sexual intercourse. So both parties are to go into the act of sex seeking to serve each other first, then, pleasure can and should be anticipated because they both selflessly have each others best interest at heart and in act.


All this to say, worrying about sexual compatibility in my opinion is useless all things being equal. 


Peace ✌🏾.


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